Wedding etiquette. You’d think it’s common sense, but I’ve been a wedding guest in too many weddings to blindly believe that. So, how can you be a good wedding guest? I’ve comprised a handy guide to help. Don’t be the reason the bride is embarrassed to watch the wedding video, ok?
Apart from watching 2 amazing people pledge their eternal love for each other, amazing food, and booze, I think my favorite part about weddings is the people watching. At times it can be inspiring, like when the two oldest people in the room hold hands and look lovingly into one another’s eyes. Some times it can be funny, like when the outgoing 7 year old busts some awesome dance moves. But other times… other times I just want to shake my head and I can’t look away quick enough.
Since weddings are fresh on my brain, I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to chat about what is and what is not acceptable wedding guest attire and decorum.
What to Wear as a Wedding Guest
What to wear to a wedding can be a difficult decision for some, apparently.
Don’t Wear White
Like seriously. Just don’t do it. I know you think that white sun dress is gorgeous, and it probably is… but leave white to the bride. I promise you she’ll do it better, anyway. All brides do.
I could also title this one “Don’t be Trashy”, but I won’t… I’ll just tell you. Don’t be trashy. You don’t have to dress like a nun, but make sure what you’re wearing is suitable for the company and event. You’re attending a wedding, not a club. Don’t wear a skin tight dress with Lucite heels. Make sure your hem is long enough to cover all of the areas you need covering.
Your only job as a wedding guest is to have a good time. That’s why you should absolutely wear something you’re comfortable in! How can you expect to tear up the dance floor in heels you can’t even walk in? Dancing isn’t your thing? This still applies. Plus, I don’t know about you, but I cannot have a good time when I’m uncomfortable. Make sure your clothing fits and you can move in your shoes.
I know you have that wild hair to try those glue-on makeup rhinestones… but just don’t. Leave the experimenting to your own time. Keep your hair and makeup classic.
How to Act at a Wedding
I feel like I shouldn’t have to share these tips, but there’s always at least one person who just doesn’t know how to act at a wedding.
It’s ok for everyone to wait for the bride and groom, but the wedding won’t wait for you! Plus, sneaking in to a wedding after it has already started is a bit of a party fowl and can take the focus off of the special couple. Set your watch 5 minutes fast if that’s what it takes.
Enjoy, But Don’t Over Indulge
The bride and groom have decided to treat their friends and family to a delicious meal and open bar–great! Chances are, they want you to take advantage of it and enjoy yourself… but they don’t want you getting messy during the reception. Leave the speeches to the wedding party, and don’t do anything that you’ll be embarrassed of the next morning. (Except if you’re embarrassed of your terrible dance moves… definitely still do those.)
Bring a Gift
Weddings are expensive and the bride and groom chose to spend their day with you! Many times it costs more than $50/person. It’s only polite to bring a gift for the couple. It doesn’t have to be huge, or cost a lot, but it definitely is necessary… even just as a thank you for the awesome party you’re getting to attend (for free). I think it’s perfectly find to send a gift prior to the actual day, though, especially if you’re afraid you’re going to forget it!
What would you add to this list? Are you a fan of people watching at weddings? Share your most interesting wedding people-watching story below!